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Breaking the rules: wed your way

Leo Farrell Photography

There's more to wedding planning than just sticking to the rules. We love the timeless traditions of the first dance, the cutting of the cake and the bouquet toss. But if playing by the book isn't your style, we have some suggestions to put a modern, personalised twist on your special day.

Five wedding rules to challenge:  

1. The bride must wear white

Since Queen Victoria wore white on her wedding day in 1840, it has been the traditional shade of wedding gowns in Western cultures. Nowadays more and more brides are adding coloured detailing to their gowns or wearing coloured wedding dresses. Thanks to celebrities such as Jessica Biel and Reese Witherspoon, pink is a feminine and romantic alternative you could opt for.

2. Something old, new, borrowed and blue

The tradition where a bride carries something old, new, borrowed and blue for good luck stems from an old English rhyme. These days there are a number of tokens brides carry for good fortune. Some brides are wearing their mother’s or grandmother’s wedding ring on their right hand. Even grooms can get involved by wearing their father’s cufflinks for luck.     

3. The bride must toss the bouquet

If you would prefer not to throw your bouquet, there are a number of fun alternatives. You could present the bouquet to the couple that have been married the longest, the couple that are next in line to be married or to the person responsible for you and your partner's introduction. For help designing your bouquet take a look at our perfect wedding bouquet guide.

4. The bride’s father has to give the bride away

This tradition dates back to arranged marriages where it was customary for the father to give away his daughter to the groom for a price. Today, it is common for both the bride’s parents, a close relative or friend to walk the bride down the aisle, which symbolises the bride’s transition from her old life to her new one.

5. The bride’s family pays for everything

It was customary for the bride’s parents to cover a majority of the wedding cost, but today many couples are financing their wedding on their own or splitting the bill with their families. The easiest way to divide wedding expenses is to take the total cost and divide it three ways, between the couple and both sets of parents. For handy tips on wedding budgeting check out our budgeting how-to.

Head to our wedding planning page for more tips and ideas on budgeting, ceremonies and receptions.

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