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Secret bridesmaids’ business

By Alexandra Collier

The role of the bridesmaid in medieval times was to dress like the bride and act as a decoy in case of kidnappers. Thankfully, ‘possible death’ is not part of the modern bridesmaid’s job description but the role is just as important in terms of making sure the wedding runs smoothly.

Who to choose?
Choosing a bridal party is one of the most emotionally fraught decisions a bride makes so it pays to think it through carefully. Choose wisely and diplomatically – it might even be a good idea to have a few reasons mentally noted for justifying your final choices in the event of a possible confrontation.

Wedding planner Renee Austin says the average number of bridesmaids is two or three. Most brides will choose close family members and/or friends. It might be a good idea to ask your fiance’s sister to be bridesmaid. Even if you’re not that close, this is often a diplomatic decision which can help score points with the in-laws.

Choose people who are willing and able to devote the time and energy and who will work well together. A good way to diffuse any feelings of ill will from overlooked candidates is to allocate them other key tasks like doing a reading or ushering.

The budget and the business of being a bridesmaid
Things to consider when setting your budget are the cost of gowns, shoes, flowers, make-up, hair, jewellery, rehearsals and maybe even a spa/beauty day in the week before the wedding.

Austin suggests gathering your chosen ones together for a briefing about six to 12 months before the day. You might be lucky enough to have parents or in-laws who offer to help out with some of these costs.

The general rule is that bridesmaids pay for their own gown so you need to consider how much they can afford. It is much better to discuss all the possible costs from the outset - you don’t want money problems to come in the way of any friendships.

The lead bridesmaid or maid/matron of honour usually organises the hen’s night but they can also be asked to co-ordinate hair and make-up appointments, dress fittings and anything the bride wants.

Frocks
Traditionally bridesmaids and puffy-sleeved taffeta numbers went hand in hand. Luckily tastes have evolved and brides have become more realistic in what they expect their bridesmaids to wear.

Georgia McCorkill, a designer for Mariana Hardwick, recommends brides be kind to their bridesmaids. “Do something that suits their personalities,” she says.

Pastels are popular for bridesmaids’ dresses but sometimes bright colours can add vibrancy and difference. Bear in mind the colour of the bride’s dress. Prices vary greatly so it pays to shop around. The good thing about the move away from taffeta is that you can find dresses at a range of stores – not just dedicated bridal shops.

Beautiful dresses can be bought off the rack for between $400 and $800 or you can go all out for the designer option. Prices for this can range from $500 to countless thousands - if you happen to be blessed with untold riches.

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