Choose a suitable outfit
These days, there are no set rules around flower girl fashion. Some brides like to draw features from their own wedding gowns, choosing parallel colours, fabrics, shapes or themes to shape their flower girl's look. If there is no obvious theme for your bridal party's attire, consider choosing a flower girl outfit to match up with the general feel of your wedding. Is it classic, modern, fashion-forward, elegant, casual or glamorous?
Make sure your design is conservative, age appropriate and low maintenance. If your flower girl is particularly young, she will tire quickly from pulling up a fine spaghetti strap every time it falls. Consider what you would have liked to have worn at her age and consult with both she and her mother in the planning process. You wouldn't want your sweet little niece throwing a tantrum on the morning of your wedding because she thinks bows are stupid or the high neckline is out to choke her.
Take your flower girl through her responsibilities
The colourful stain-glass windows and magnificently high ceilings featured in churches, together with vibrant flower arrangements and an unfamiliar celebrant at the ceremony, can all be quite overwhelming for little ones. If you are having a rehearsal prior to your big day, be sure to invite the flower girl along so that she can familiarise herself with the surroundings and her role. A practice at the venue will help to calm any nerves she has for the big day.
Introduce her to your minister and your bridal party. Take time to explain the importance of the bouquet so she doesn't abandon it when the novelty wears off. It might be a good idea to make the church rehearsal into a dress rehearsal for any little ones to minimise the chance of them twirling in their skirt, pulling at their collar or tripping on their hem halfway down the aisle. It may also prevent on-the-day tantrums about the way they look or iron out insecurities they are feeling in regards to their role.
Hold the paparazzi please
Always introduce your flower girl to your photographer so that she feels safe with an otherwise stranger. Your guests and your photographer are likely to be eager to snap a string of shots of the little one at her cutest. Some flower girls will love being in the spotlight, while others will shy away and bury themselves in a face full of tears if uncomfortable enough. Explain to your flower girl that the photographer's role is to primarily capture photos of the bride and groom and secondly to produce evidence of those that shared in the celebration with the newlyweds. Tell your photographer to go easy on your flower girl. Allocate time during the photography shoot with the bridal party prior to the ceremony for the photographer to take close ups so as to ease her into the idea. A good photographer will be patient, clear and understanding with little ones, and opt for long action shots that depict the child's sweet innocence.